I'm Nikki I'm an Alexander Technique teacher and Mum of one lively toddler.
I have suffered with lower back pain since my early twenties. I tried osteopathy, and physio which only put a sticking plaster on the pain. I then started Alexander Technique lessons and enjoyed them from the off. For me, at the time, it was less for the physical improvements and more for the time out it gave me. It gave me the space I needed to understand that my back ache was probably caused by my bad posture which was in turn caused by deep rooted habits. Yes I still suffer as I’m still working on changing those habits!
At the time I started lessons my career was not exciting me, I felt I needed something else. It was a light bulb moment when I realised ‘Yes, I can train to do this’. I wasn’t sure then if it would end up being full time but taking the AT lessons and then starting the course gave me the space to make decisions in the present for now. We would see what would happen in the future. I was single with a mortgage, I had to keep my office job going but I managed to do this while training.
Within the training I learnt a lot about myself. Previously not having self-belief in relationships, it gave me a confidence in myself that I think gave off to the outside world and it wasn’t long before I met my partner, soon to be husband. 5 years later I find myself with a toddler and resigned from my office job. Oh and we’ve also moved to a new city, Bristol! This means we can both afford to be self-employed. It will allow a balance in our family life
As a new Mum I was lucky that I had the support of many peers and I think that is what has got me through the tougher times. It’s invaluable to be able to chat and compare stories with people in the same position as you. No one else really understands fully what you’re going through. But outside of that group it seems there is nowhere else to go. There are plenty of mum and baby groups but they are all focused on baby. No one outside the quiet discussions I have one-to-one, or some ‘mummy blogs’ is anyone talking about how physically and emotionally gruelling the whole thing is.
Alexander Technique has given me the tools to be more present and be ok with everything changing from moment to moment.
My aim is to help other parents with these ideas, providing a safe, nuturing environment where we can learn from, and support each other. Where it’s OK and possible to have time for ourselves, and let go of all that we’ve been holding onto.